Things You Shouldn't Say to a Woman Who Has Had a Loss

After talking with different ladies who have experienced loss, we all seem to share some common experiences with people who (we think) who mean well but end up saying the WRONG thing. So I've made a list of (what I call) my top ten things NOT to say to someone who has experienced a loss:

1.) "Don't worry...you'll have more children"

2.) "Well, it's a blessing because your child may have been disabled."

3.) (on Christmas or birthdays) "Don't be sad. After all, your child is in heaven!"

4.) "You seem like you're doing great, so it must not have taken you long to get over it!"

5.) "Look at these beautiful pictures of my baby!"

6.) "Can you come to my baby shower?"

7.) "Gosh, my pregnancy is going so perfectly!"

8.) "I don't ever take my prenatal pills...oh well!"

9.) "If I drink during my pregnancy, I'm sure my baby will be fine...After all, my grandmother drank and my mom was fine!"

10.) "When are you going to have another baby?"